In our generation loneliness is an illness, a plague, a stamp that deems you unfit. Everyone is searching for their fairytale but no one is being honest. Loneliness is not that big of a deal.
That's crazy for a single twenty-something to proclaim huh? Well, I have got to say it. When I battled depression, I felt lonely even in a room full of people. I finally asked myself, "am I lonely or is this self-pity?" The answer stung like alcohol on a child's scraped knee. If you are lonely it is often because you are focusing on what you lack instead of what you have. A woman I know has never really found her match. She's in her forties. If you meet her, you would think she had a man and three kids at home. She is so joyful and loving. Initially I thought that must be awful but I was immediately reprimanded by my own marital status. What if my journey doesn't have a supporting role? What am I supposed to do? Most people would suggest I rawl up in a corner and die. But the fact is, I would live abundantly because that's what my faith guarantees me. I'm single. (ain't no telling when that will change) But, when I do find him, I don't want him to meet some woman sad because she is by herself. I want him to find a woman who is down right joyful. If I don't like being alone with me, how in the world is he supposed to like it. I think both men and women need to stop searching for others and search for themselves. Trust me, when you are focused on your best self, loneliness will be a silly twinge that shows its face but leaves. It will come around, just like hunger, fatigue and horniness. We are humans, our bodies crave interaction. But, it's up to you to defer your loneliness with joy or to wallow in it. We were born in this world alone. We will leave it alone. Why should we feel pity for being alone along the way? Am I bugging? Let me know, I'd love to start a discourse on this topic.
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