“You, yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~ Buddah This post was hard to write. It made me think about my past, bringing up insecurities that I am still coping with today. However, I am tired of seeing women down themselves for being who they are. Society tells us how to dress and what makeup to wear to be the “perfect” date. Then because we don’t have enough love for ourselves, we believe that a man will be able to fill the void in our hearts. How do you give love to someone when you can’t even give love to yourself? I’ve always been a curvy girl. Growing up my chest developed faster than the other girls, making me extremely insecure. I was fat. Hearing my grandma and my mom tell me I needed to lose weight at the age of 10 made me feel like something was wrong with me. The boys I had a crush on never seemed to like me. They liked my friends because they were skinny and tall. I was sad and I hated how I looked. I remember just being upset with God for making me look the way I did.
The first thing I did was look at myself in the mirror. What did I love about my body? I started to say the things I loved about myself out loud every day. Second I started to look at my “flaws.” I started to say to myself who could rock it better than I can? My responsibility was to love my body, so let me care about it, first. Last but most definitely not least, in order to love yourself you have to take some time to see your inner self. What is your character like? There is no way you can feel beautiful on the outside if you are not beautiful on the inside.
I understand why we lust after those who will find our flaws attractive. It will make us feel better about ourselves. But, sadly, that will only last for so long. Why do we complain about not feeling loved? It is because we can only give ourselves the fulfillment of love. Anyone can truly say they love you, but if you don’t love yourself you will not be content with the love you receive around you. No one else can love you better than you! Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you love you! Even if you don’t feel like it at the time, say it with confidence. Words have power. And you my dear, are worth your love. -Eri
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October 2015
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