So this is the first and the last ATS Magazine article on the topic of Love and Hip Hop Atlanta (LHHA). Not only will I go back to boycotting the show, I just refuse to fuel the fire behind what is promoted. But in the muck of foolishness being pawned off as relationships, I realized that there is ONE question that I can talk to you guys about: what love is worth going through? Every five minutes the question, "is love worth it?" kept popping up in my head. As I saw the cast being led on, disrespected, used and objectified, I knew that we, everyday people in and around the city of Chicago, are going through the same problems: all in the name of love.
Let me clarify, I don't believe that many of us know what real love is. We go throwing love around, when the word we really should be using is lust! But that's a whole other post. So for time's sake, I'll let y'all call what is shown on LHHA love. Besides, love is the furthest thing from simple or equal across the board. However, there is a line that all women and men should draw before they go rolling in the deep. That boundary is defined with respect. Love shouldn't be easy; nothing worth having is! But, at the basis of the hard work, you should feel respected. When you muddle the lines joining love and respect, the only result that can occur is pain. Yeah, it sounds obvious. BUT LET'S HAVE A HONEST MOMENT. We have all stayed with a person disrespecting us for reasons like fear of loneliness, naivite, sex, and low self-esteem. If everyone understood that love required respect to exist, then shows like LHHA wouldn't be a hit show. The world would be telling Joseline, Rasheeda, Scrappy, and Mimi to leave the folks their with. And while they're leaving, not to pass go or to collect $200. If it was clear that love and respect go hand in hand, Mama Dee would get her crazy nose out of Scrappy's sex life. If it was clear that love and respect needed to be combined, Bam, who we just saw last season with BENZINO, wouldn't be Scrappy's new piece. In all honestly, all the men and women on LHHA are suffering because they aren't asking the question, "Is love worth it." Joseline has a new mansion, but is it worth the husband who leaves her home alone on her birthday? Mimi has a "new found comfort" with Nicko. She's having the "best sex of her life;" but we all know how that story ends. Tammy is engaged, has been for seven months, but she has no ring to show for it; which could suggest that Wacka's proposal wasn't a well thought out decision. I could go on and on, but what for? We all know, ITS NOT WORTH IT! I will be alone and triumphant through every moment of it, before I allow my husband to suggest I get an abortion. Being married is not worth pretending I am with a man who wants to have a family. I will be broke, working for McDonald's, before I allow a man to humiliate me and then buy me a mansion. I will be a nun before I allow great sex to "allegedly" accidentally make me a porn star. No sex, no money, no feelings, no emotions, no high is worth the things we see on LHHA. I'm not a ride or die. BUMP THAT! I will be a dedicated wife because instead of greed, or insecurity, I have respect within my heart!
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